"My Wife's Loans Are Ruining Our Lives": 36 Financial Decisions People Regret

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We requested members of the BuzzFeed Community to share their worst financial decisions. As faculty is without doubt one of the greatest investments an individual makes (the average student debt within the US is greater than $32,000), it's not fully shocking that most of the responses concerned faculty — taking out giant pupil loans, selecting the unsuitable program, or not understanding the monetary assist course of. Others advised tales about ex-partners, automobiles, and credit score automobiles. One particular person even admitted that whereas he loves his spouse, he regrets marrying somebody with a lot debt.

Experiences like these harm, and so they're arduous to speak about. We requested readers to open up about their errors in order that, hopefully, you may be taught from them.

Listed here are 36 large monetary choices folks say they regretted.

I married somebody with quite a lot of pupil mortgage debt. Don't get me unsuitable, I like my spouse greater than something on this entire world, however had I recognized the destructive impact her loans would have on our life, I could have finished issues in another way. Her loans are just about ruining our lives. They’ve made it so we mainly can't do something, regardless that we each make good cash. There are not any holidays, no new garments, no new automobiles, no financial savings account, no retirement accounts, struggles each month and particularly across the holidays, after we can't afford to purchase our households presents. Each penny must be considered in our lives. I’m virtually 40, and I’m a prisoner to her debt. I don't assume folks understand simply how damaging pupil loans will be. She has now paid extra again than her authentic mortgage was for, however nonetheless owes the identical quantity she borrowed. In the event you can't make double or triple funds, they simply by no means go away. We’re at the moment paying over $10,000 a yr in INTEREST alone. It's killing us, each financially and mentally. There isn’t any break from stress EVER. If I might return, I'd stick with my spouse however not marry her, and I might hold our funds separate. I do know I sound like an insensitive dick, however the quantity of fear I've finished over her loans is sufficient for 2 lifetimes.

Going to varsity. I do know that nowadays, you may’t begin a profession with out the diploma. However being $150,000 in debt on the age of 25 is soul crushing. I can’t even afford medical health insurance by way of my job due to my mortgage funds. I can’t even begin my life it appears.

As soon as he went by way of most of his promotions, he ran off with certainly one of my closest associates.

I took a “short-term” job after faculty, fairly than going proper into what I ought to have been doing. Stayed for 2 years and was dwelling off of bank cards as a result of my pay was so low, however I used to be too broke to maneuver two states away to stay with my dad and mom. I grew loads as an individual, however now I’ve quite a lot of bank card debt. It was very troublesome to get a “actual” job afterward, and I’m years behind the place I ought to be in my profession, leaving me financially stunted in comparison with my associates. I ought to have taken extra measured steps fairly than leaping for one thing straightforward/enjoyable on a whim.

I began with an web startup firm in 1997. They paid out a small quantity of inventory choices — which grew exponentially in worth through the years, particularly with splits. I hung in there for 5 years, permitting my choices to totally vest. They have been price a number of hundred thousand after I left to take a much less hectic job.

If I had merely held on to my full portfolio, with out touching it, I might retire immediately. E-company is huge. As an alternative, I offered a bunch to reinvest in retirement funds — not a BAD concept, but it surely has grown a fraction of the inventory worth. And each time I felt it peaked, inflicting me to promote some, it took off once more, making my sell-off a continually dangerous concept.

Now I’ve to promote some yearly to remain “retired” whereas working different jobs — it'll most likely be gone when my retirement fund kicks in. If I had left it alone and trusted in its development I might be dwelling like a king now for the remainder of my life. None of my different investments paid off.

Shopping for a home again in ‘04 once they have been throwing mortgages at anybody and everybody. We have been younger, naive, and had no concept what we have been doing, and the mortgage firm, in addition to our actual property agent, took full benefit of that reality, lol. We put no cash down on an older dwelling and we didn’t have a set fee, so our mortgage shot as much as an astronomical quantity and we struggled to maintain up with the funds. We did a number of “mortgage modifications,” as refinancing wasn’t an choice. But when our fee even ended up being lowered, it was by $30 on the most, which wasn’t a lot assist. On high of that, we needed to change the air conditioner and the water heater inside the first yr (regardless of the appraiser saying they have been in good situation), after which two years in we had a slab leak that led to us having to exchange all the piping all through the home. Over time it simply turned unimaginable to maintain the home up — we would have liked a brand new roof, home windows (the unique early ‘80s ones did nothing for the local weather management in the home), and had quite a lot of outer wooden that wanted to get replaced, amongst many different issues. We spent so many sleepless nights stressing about funds and the home falling down round us that finally we realized we simply needed to get out or we’d drown on this ceaselessly. Additionally, we didn’t need this home to value us our relationship since we have been having pointless fights simply because we have been below a lot stress. We tried a brief sale (promoting it outright wasn’t an choice on account of all of the repairs wanted), but it surely didn’t occur, and we have been denied deed in lieu of foreclosures by Wells Fargo. So we have been pressured simply to let it go to foreclosures and transfer. It ruined our credit score in an enormous means, however we couldn’t be happier to be out of that nightmare.

I assume all my monetary troubles will be traced to at least one very dangerous determination: I received a pupil mortgage to go to culinary faculty. The worst half was that if I had waited a mere three months, I might have been sufficiently old to not be thought-about below my dad and mom financially and would have certified for monetary assist. If I might return in time, I might slap myself and inform myself to not waste my time. (By no means did something with the diploma — I spotted that though I like cooking, working in knowledgeable kitchen will not be for me.) I want I had no less than waited these few months.

After that it was only one dangerous monetary determination after one other: three automobiles breaking down (discovered lesson there: generally it's cheaper in the long term to only get a brand new automobile), two extra loans taken out (one a debt consolidation mortgage and the opposite a automobile mortgage), and I've received collectors calling me and should need to file chapter. Additionally my dad cosigned on these loans, so I'm messing up his credit score too, which makes me really feel like shit. I simply had a child so I’ve hospital payments now too.

Fortunately, I’ve a great job and my husband simply received a great job, so maybe with cautious budgeting we are able to get this debt below management.

After I was 18, simply sufficiently old to enroll in a bank card by myself, I labored at a retail retailer and had forgotten my debit card sooner or later. I used to be hungry and wished to eat one thing, so I signed up for a bank card and charged two snickers bars to it for round $5. I don’t know why I used to be the best way I used to be, however I made a decision to only NOT pay on my bank card and ended up racking up late charges to virtually $500. I ignored the statements till I needed to ask my household to assist me out with that monster of a invoice and it simply now fell off of my credit score assertion three years later. Adulting is tough, however fortunately I’m now the financially accountable one in my marriage!

My worst monetary errors are generally going the cheaper route to economize. I purchased a $600 bike whereas dwelling in Japan that I used day by day. Sure, I beloved it, however I carried my bike loads and wished one thing lighter and quicker. I ended up taking a loss and shopping for a greater, $1,500 bike. After I moved again to Michigan, I purchased a $three,000 automobile that ended up being a lemon and I put $15,000 in. I now finance a $15,000 automobile (that I can afford) and is sort of new.

I purchased a home for $110,000 (WELL under my funds) that doesn’t have a storage, regardless that a storage was the ONLY factor on my “want” listing. Now, I’m placing in a storage for $25,000.

My recommendation (that I by no means appear to be taught): The cheaper choice shouldn’t be all the time the perfect.

Nearly a yr and a half later I'm coping with this. I'm having to get the police concerned and I'm paying for it each month and I haven't even seen the bike in a yr. There's nonetheless $eight,000 owed. Largest mistake ever.

Financing a $30,000 automobile whereas I used to be pregnant with no job and behind on my condominium payments. What a genius, proper? … Cherished the automobile a lot I talked myself into it.

I let my dad and mom handle all of the monetary planning for faculty. They bickered about federal sponsored mortgage preparations and which faculty I might really “afford” whereas I used to be attempting to get by way of my highschool exams. If I had recognized what a burden the loans may very well be, I might have tried a group faculty first.

Investing money and time into fixing up a house that didn't have my title on the deed.

My former partner and I had a dedication ceremony (homosexual marriage wasn't authorized on the time). As a part of a marriage current, my dad and mom offered my partner and I certainly one of their funding properties at a loss to them to assist us get a leg up financially and to personal an inexpensive dwelling that we might flip for a revenue in some unspecified time in the future. My ex received a USAA dwelling mortgage (a navy mortgage for these of you who don't know). USAA didn’t acknowledge homosexual companions so I wasn't allowed on any of the paperwork.

I put a bunch of money and time into bettering the house. Then my already abusive ex fell off the wagon and began consuming and abusing opioids, thereby making life insufferable. I ended up having to maneuver out for my security/sanity and I had no rights to the house as a result of I wasn't on the deed. So mainly I received screwed and needed to stay with my dad and mom for some time to get financially sound once more.

Financing regulation faculty (tuition and dwelling bills) by way of loans. I’m going through $140,000 at 6–eight% curiosity. Much more silly was planning on doing authorities work for 10 years to be eligible for the general public curiosity pupil mortgage forgiveness program, however which may be ended (name your reps, pleaaaase). I could by no means be capable of retire.

Not contributing to a former job's 401Okay once they matched to a sure share … to consider the cash I might have had for retirement … UGH

Getting a automobile … with a fee larger than my mortgage.

Borrowing additional pupil mortgage funds than have been wanted to pay tuition. I by no means spent the refund test on something helpful, and now have a lot extra debt than is important. Additionally, cashing out small 401(ok)s after I began new jobs — ought to have rolled these funds over to be in a greater spot now.

Shopping for a home at 25. We — my husband and I, who’ve three small youngsters — have been pressured into it and advised that we have been simply throwing our cash away by paying lease. The one properties that have been “adequate” by his household’s requirements have been means out of our worth vary (we had one revenue, pupil mortgage debt, and about $four,000 of bank card debt.) We purchased a home we couldn’t afford, we put our children in personal preschools we couldn’t afford, and we have been depressing.

Now, 5 years later, we offered the home for a revenue and are even additional into bank card debt, however we’re in a short time crawling out. Our home is a smaller townhouse — however we LOVE the group. I work now and we’re happy with Not Maintaining Up With the Joneses.

I’m harping it into my youngsters to STAY AWAY FROM BUYING A HOME till your funds are squared away. No debt and a hunk of financial savings for a down fee.

Taking out a payday mortgage. It helps instantly, however the rates of interest are so excessive that it makes them virtually unimaginable to repay with out taking out different loans to repay the earlier.

Regulation faculty. Had a scholarship however negated it by taking out more money in loans for private bills. I additionally did a research overseas program for a summer time (which might be the one a part of regulation faculty I DON’T remorse). After which I made the clever selection of transferring out of my dad and mom home after my first yr as a result of, you already know, I’m sensible. The entire time I’m pondering I’ll graduate making $80,000. Nope. Graduated owing roughly $140,000 and began off making ~$45,000. I ended up having to maneuver again dwelling for a number of years.

I went to varsity within the late '90s. I dropped out of my first faculty at 19 and went to stay in a metropolis and simply labored varied jobs for 2 years. I made a decision to return to high school in my metropolis. By then I used to be 21 and had been dwelling fully independently for 2 years. My mother is nicely off (retired at 52(!)) however was not serving to with lease or airfare dwelling or something. No complaints — that was, and is, effective with me. BUT I didn't understand I might declare myself financially impartial, so all my monetary assist was calculated as if my mother was paying for my faculty. She did assist out however I additionally needed to tackle pupil loans. I might have saved me and her a ton of cash!

I received loans for and signed up for a web based pharmacy tech program with out realizing my state didn’t acknowledge it as legitimate accreditation. I’m nonetheless paying for that silly program 5 years later…after realizing my mistake and doing what I needed to do to get an actual pharmacy tech license!

I took out a mortgage by way of (mainly) a mortgage shark so as to assist consolidate debt whereas I used to be in class full time. The rate of interest was so excessive that I’d find yourself paying virtually double what the mortgage was really price. BE CAREFUL when taking out loans. Mine ended up inflicting me to declare chapter.

I used to be engaged to this man and I didn’t have a automobile. We lived collectively within the rural Midwest and I wanted one actually badly. I had credit score, he didn’t, and he advised me that if I put a automobile lease in my title, he’d pay for it. I used to be about to go to varsity and would don’t have any technique to pay for it if he didn’t maintain up his half of the cut price, however I used to be younger, dumb, and in love, so I did it. He enlisted within the navy and broke his backbone in fundamental. Bam, no cash for both of us.

I ended up having to do a voluntary repossession and my credit score is abysmal. We’ve been damaged up for nearly a yr, and I’m nonetheless coping with the monetary fallout. Ethical of the story, DO NOT EVER put something in your title you can’t pay for, even when another person says they can assist. It’s your future on the road, not theirs.

Opening up two bank cards as quickly as I turned 18. I didn't know something about bank cards. I didn't know you needed to pay them again instantly. I used to be a school freshman. They didn't train me all of that in highschool. I maxed them each out within the span of six months and didn't make funds for like three years as a result of I didn't know I needed to. Now, eight years later, I virtually have them paid off, however my credit score rating is absolute shit and I'll most likely by no means be capable of personal a home.

Placing my marriage ceremony on bank cards. I'm fairly certain I might have paid for it however received too lazy to really save.

Whereas I used to be nonetheless with my ex, I financed a second automobile in my title as a result of I used to be sick of driving him round. Within the breakup, he stole the automobile and pays simply sufficient to maintain it from being repossessed however not sufficient for it to be paid off. My credit score rating is a joke now.

That little poop takes 80% of the cash I make. I don't even bear in mind the final time I purchased myself garments. However to be trustworthy I like her extra then I ever thought I might love somebody, so it's okay, I don't thoughts one bit.

Shifting out of my dad and mom’ home too early. They requested me to not and advised me to remain one other yr and save up, however I wished to be completely impartial. So I moved into an condominium that was out of my funds and didn’t have a roommate. I beloved it but it surely took a HUGE toll on my financial savings and I ended up having to maneuver again in with them anyway. I’m nonetheless engaged on saving as much as the place I used to be earlier than I moved out and it’s been a yr and a half. By no means regretted something extra.

Making use of for a bank card as quickly as I used to be sufficiently old to, through a spam type in . No person ever defined curiosity to me within the right means. I then opened a second one through my financial institution after I was 20. I had no concept I might undergo redundancy twice a few years later, nor did I realise I'd nonetheless be paying the rattling playing cards off in my mid-thirties. Bank cards are evil!

It looks as if an increasing number of employers are hiring primarily based on earlier expertise or if you already know somebody inside the firm. All of it appears to be about networking and getting your foot within the door early. I really feel firms couldn't care much less about your diploma fairly than work expertise. Certain, 4 years of faculty gave me expertise in social facets and allowed me to be taught extra in my area, nonetheless, it additionally left me with about 40 years of pupil mortgage debt.

When faculty was finished, it was extremely troublesome for me to discover a job. It took roughly seven years after faculty to land the profession I now have. Corporations didn't wish to rent a “straight-out-of-college” particular person. They wished somebody who had years of expertise who wouldn't should be skilled in any side. I do know so many individuals who spend 4 or extra years in faculty, to finish up in a profession that has nothing to go along with their diploma. It really was the largest waste of cash I can consider.

I purchased my first dwelling in January of this yr. Some issues got here up, and I’m transferring again to my hometown within the spring, so I’m getting my home able to promote. My householders affiliation simply introduced that they’re elevating the HOA month-to-month charge 40% for 2018. My HOA charge is now solely $75 much less every month than my mortgage fee. Because the HOA is so excessive, nobody desires to purchase in my neighborhood, which suggests I’ve to let my home go at a $40,000 loss so as to promote it. So, I’m now combating the choice to let my home go at a $40,000 loss and transfer dwelling the place I should be — or keep the place I at the moment am. If I might return, I might have by no means purchased this home.

Like an inexperienced millennial, my Twitter was not set to personal. A job I used to be interviewing for noticed that I tweeted about one thing silly my boss stated a number of months in the past, so I didn’t get that job. That tweet value me $60,000 a yr plus advantages.

Obtained a preapproved Uncover bank card within the mail after I was 18. Maxed it out inside per week. Nonetheless paying it off into my twenties. I took out tens of hundreds of in federal and personal loans to pay for faculty regardless that I had no concept what I wished to do.

I turned disabled midway by way of regulation faculty and didn’t wish to be the one that give up as a result of they have been sick. Now I’ve six-figure debt and I’m not wholesome sufficient to work within the area, so it’s a nugatory diploma that I solely received due to delight and internalized ableism. Consider in who you at the moment are so that you don’t screw your self over sooner or later.

Having a child. That little motherfucker is gonna smash me. Good factor she's superior, I assume.

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Troye Sivan Really Did That With His New Single, And "My My My," Am I Gayer

What the American folks wanted!

Depart it to Troye Sivan to ship a queer-centric pulsating visible that had me gayer than I used to be yesterday for his new, and really superb, single “My My My!” (Be aware: Yesterday I used to be at dwelling sick watching homosexual porn on mute with Britney’s Femme Fatale taking part in on loop so my roommate would not hear the sucks and the moans, so yeah.)


Within the video for his lead single off his extremely anticipated upcoming sophomore album, Troye’s vocals soar over a synth beat because the Skinny King serves infinitely fierce Robyn-esque strikes in epileptic fashun, THUS saving 2018 from the straight agenda.

In the video for his lead single off his highly anticipated upcoming sophomore album, Troye's vocals soar over a synth beat as the Skinny King serves infinitely fierce Robyn-esque moves in epileptic fashun, THUS saving 2018 from the straight agenda.


I imply, DAD.

I mean, DAD.


The mid-tempo rom-bop was produced by Görresput and put Troye again within the writing studio with “Youth” songwriter Leland, giving us a few of his most beautiful lyrics to this point:

The mid-tempo rom-bop was produced by Görresput and put Troye back in the writing studio with "Youth" songwriter Leland, giving us some of his most gorgeous lyrics to date:

Spark up, buzz lower
I bought my tongue between your enamel
Go sluggish, no, no, go quick
You prefer it simply as a lot as me

Now, let's cease operating from love
Working from love
Let's cease, my child
Let's cease operating from us
Working from us
Let's cease, my child

Oh my, my, my!
I die each night time with you
Oh my, my, my!
Dwelling in your each transfer


I swear to Carly Rae Jepsen, if the American folks let this one flop…

I swear to Carly Rae Jepsen, if the American people let this one flop...


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People Think They Have The Answer To The Decade-Long Mystery Of Who Wrote "My Immortal"

The id of the creator behind the long-lasting Harry Potter fanfic has been a thriller since 2006.

Again in 2006, probably the most legendary works of our time was revealed: “My Immortal,” a fan fiction that includes characters from Harry Potter and an unique character generally known as Ebony Darkish’ness Dementia Raven Approach.

Back in 2006, one of the most legendary works of our time was published: "My Immortal," a fan fiction featuring characters from Harry Potter and an original character known as Ebony Dark'ness Dementia Raven Way.

“My Immortal,” which was revealed on FanFiction.web on the peak of the Harry Potter craze, adopted Ebony (who was additionally a vampire) and her exploits at Hogwarts, together with her relationship with Draco Malfoy. Within the fanfic, Hogwarts is split between goths and preps, and Harry Potter goes by the identify of Vampire and is Draco's ex-boyfriend. The misspellings within the textual content are intense and rampant to the purpose of being nearly creative.

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For a lot of who’ve encountered web fan tradition within the decade since its publication, “My Immortal” is nothing short of iconic. It even impressed a live-action web series.

For many who've encountered internet fan culture in the decade since its publication, "My Immortal" is nothing short of iconic. It even inspired a live-action web series.

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And although “My Immortal” was written below the pen identify Tara Gilespie — and the FanFiction.web username XXXbloodyrists666XXX — the precise id of the creator has lengthy been certainly one of fandom’s biggest mysteries.

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Alexa, Play "My Neck, My Back"

Casey Picker had a shock when the music “iSpy” by Kyle (feat. Lil' Yachty) got here on his Echo. It's a catchy kid-friendly tune, but it surely does characteristic some not precisely kid-friendly phrases. Lyrics like “I received't fuck a bitch and not using a rubber” would possibly assist train your teenagers in regards to the significance of secure intercourse, however they're in all probability not ideally suited for youthful ones.


Amazon Music doesn't provide but specific language filters. Which signifies that the corporate's Echo and Dot sensible audio system — which use Amazon Music as a default streaming service — don't but provide profanity-free variations of the music that, say, a plucky 7-year-old would possibly ask it to play. Amazon instructed BuzzFeed Information the corporate is “actively engaged on an answer to this situation,” but it surely didn't say what that answer is perhaps or when it's anticipated to reach.

Amazon Alexa does have some built-in filters for cusswords. For instance, if it's studying a message somebody texted you thru the Alexa platform, it should bleep out the phrase “fuck.” I've examined this, in fact.

Fretting about specific lyrics in songs could be very 1985 Tipper Gore, I do know. Positive, your child's head received't explode ought to she hear a couple of cusswords. But it surely's cheap for fogeys to need to keep away from f-bomb publicity, if for no purpose aside from youngsters like to repeat naughty phrases simply to harass adults.

I'm no prude (see, I'll show it: butts, fart, crap, fuck, turd, shit), however even I generally discover myself shocked by the specific lyrics in pop songs. Ever have that have the place you hear the “actual” model of a music you solely ever heard on the radio, and also you're shocked, SHOCKED! in any respect the soiled phrases? Like that Enrique Iglesias hit song that goes “Tonight I'm loving you…” however you then uncover he's planning on doing one thing far more than “loving” you?? Yeah, that.

Right here's the present state of specific lyric filtering on streaming companies:

No Specific Lyric Filters:

  • Tidal

  • Spotify

  • Amazon Music

Sure Specific Lyric Filters:

  • Apple Music

  • Pandora

  • Google Music

Echo and Dot units are fashionable with youngsters for apparent causes: They're mainly toys that speak to you. There are tons of kid-friendly apps for them that tell jokes or serve up fun facts about animals. The units might help spell phrases, or do math issues. In truth, in loads of methods, the Echo and the Dot appear extra acceptable for teenagers than adults.

There's been a smattering of handwringing that Echos are turning kids into assholes who by no means have to inform Alexa, “please,” or are enablers of unexpected client binges. Take into account the viral story of a girl who ordered an expensive dollhouse and four pounds of cookies; then, in a Murphy's Regulation self-suck, the TV news coverage of that story triggered viewers' Echos to place orders for the same items.

However for probably the most half, the Echo and Dot are units that youngsters love. Amazon appears to comprehend it, and has actively marketed them to oldsters within the type of each back-to-school sales and kid-specific skills. So the truth that the Echo doesn't but have a kid-friendly music providing is shocking — and irritating for quite a lot of dad and mom. Certainly, Amazon buyer forums show threads of parents pissed off and confused as to why they will't cease their youngsters from listening to naughty music.

Whereas Amazon is engaged on an answer to the difficulty, it's unclear when it would arrive. So within the meantime right here's a prompt workaround: Solely hearken to Swedish demise steel, so your youngsters can't perceive it (until you communicate Swedish, by which case, you're fucked).

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Rihanna Instagrammed "My Bad" After Diplo Revealed She Thought His Music Sounded Like Airport Songs


I believe earlier than we're all accomplished, she'll [Rihanna] be on a track of ours. Hopefully. But when not, I don't actually care. I performed her “Lean On.” She was like, I don't do home music. I face-palmed so onerous on that one. One other time I had a session along with her, and Future was additionally invited. The Weeknd was there. Metro Boomin was there earlier than anyone knew who he was. I used to be so contact excessive. Future performed her, like, 700 songs. It was 4 within the morning. Lastly, I used to be like, Yo, G, I'm leaving except you let me play her a track. So I performed her a track. And she or he was like, This appears like a reggae track at an airport. [laughs] I used to be like, I'm gonna go kill myself.

Properly, Rihanna simply broke her silence on Airportgate and remained the unapologetic queen everyone knows by merely Instagramming a headline of the occasions with a “my unhealthy”:

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Diplo’s gonna should cope with airplane emojis on his Instagram for the remainder of his life, is not he?

Diplo's gonna have to deal with airplane emojis on his Instagram for the rest of his life, isn't he?


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